Frequently Asked Questions
If you have a query that isn't answered below, please contact us at any time.
What can I add to my list?
Absolutely anything! We'll start you off with a handful of suggestions, such as room upgrades, car hire and a bottle of champagne — but there are countless different items you could add. From a romantic meal to a day's scuba diving, you can cover all of your different honeymoon costs. And you don't need to limit your list to activities — you can ask for more tangible things: a camcorder, beach clothes or a set of skis all make fabulous presents too.
If you get stuck, we're here to help: with hundreds of successful lists as our inspiration, we're happy to provide lots of suggestions.
How can my guests pay for the gifts they've bought?
You have complete freedom to manage this in whatever way suits you best. You can ask your guests to bring you cash on the day of your wedding, to send you a cheque, or allow them to pay by credit card into a PayPal account.
We don't collect payment from your guests, and we don't charge a commission on the gifts you're given.
However, if you choose to take payments into a PayPal account, PayPal will charge a fee (typically 3.4% + £0.20) per transaction, deducted from the funds you receive. If you have a PayPal Personal Account used for shopping online, we strongly recommend upgrading this to a Premier Account, so that you can receive credit card payments from your guests.
Are our gifts safe?
Completely. Buy Our Honeymoon acts purely as a wedding list creation and gift reservation service — we don't collect any money whatsoever from your guests, so your gifts are yours from the moment they're given.
If you decide to integrate your honeymoon gift list with your own PayPal account, your guests will send the value of their gifts directly into that account. At no time do we handle this transfer of funds, although we'll do everything we can to make the process as straightforward and seamless as possible for your guests.
PayPal are the global leaders in online payments and money transfers, managing over 164 million accounts. In Europe, PayPal is regulated as a bank and is based in Luxembourg. Since 2002, PayPal has been a wholly-owned subsidiary of the leading Internet auction site, eBay.
If we use PayPal, do our guests have to pay as soon as they reserve a gift?
No, although they certainly can. We'll send them an email message that contains a special link back to the site so that they can pay whenever is most convenient.
The site was easy to set up and meant our guests felt truly part of our wedding and celebrations. The perfect wedding gift solution for the modern couple who already live together and have everything!
— Penny Phillips
Can I ask guests to pay a contribution towards our travel or accommodation expenses?
Of course. Normally, when a guest reserves an item, it's marked as unavailable for other guests. But you can allow any items on your list to be reserved by more than one guest, and take multiple gifts of the same item.
It's useful to have a couple of these kinds of items in case your guests are more generous than you expect (and they often are) — you can't have too many bottles of champagne! Take a look at our Ten Top Tips for making the most of your honeymoon gift list (PDF, 83K).
How do our guests find our list?
We'll give you 70 notification cards for you to send with your invitations, which provide the exact URL of your list so your guests can go straight to your pages. You can customise these to match the design of your list, and to include your own message.
The cards measure 85mm × 54mm (roughly credit card size). If you're sending more than 70 invitations, you can add more cards to your order.
Your guests can also search for your list using the panel on our homepage.
Do guests have to log in to use the list?
No, viewing a list and reserving items on it is incredibly simple and straightforward. Your guests need only provide their name, email address and an optional message to reserve an item. You, of course, can log in at any time to make changes to your list, or to view your Gift History.
How do we know when a guest has reserved a gift?
We'll send an email notification to both you and your partner, including any message provided for you by your guest. The gift is also recorded on your personal Gift History (available when you log in).
How can our guests who don't have access to the Internet use our list?
Buy Our Honeymoon list pages have been carefully designed to look great when printed, so you can easily post a copy of your list to any of your guests that require it.
Alternatively, your guests can telephone us on 0845 224 0189 (international: +44 20 8305 2414) and we'll be happy to field enquiries on your list for you. You can include this number on your notification cards if you wish to.
Buying some random present for my cousin's wedding wasn't nearly as much fun as getting you guys a day of jetskiing and parasailing!
— Neil Harrison
Are there any alternatives to the name "Buy Our Honeymoon" we could use?
Yes. When you register to create your list, you can choose between six different URL domains (web addresses) for your honeymoon gift list:
- www.buy-our-honeymoon.com
- www.the-gift-of-memories.com
- www.honeymoonpromises.com
- www.our-dream-honeymoon.co.uk
- www.honeymoon-memories.co.uk
- www.our-hearts-desire.co.uk
Your guests will only see the site you choose, but you'll still log in to buy-our-honeymoon.com to access your list management tools.
Who handles our honeymoon travel, accommodation and activities?
It's entirely up to you. We're not affiliated to any travel agency, so we don't ask you to book your honeymoon through us or to use our preferred suppliers for your honeymoon activities. You're completely free to include whatever you choose on your list.
When should we sign up to Buy Our Honeymoon?
Anytime!* It's a great idea to sign up for a free, no-obligation 7-day trial to "test drive" the site and see if it's right for you.
At any point during the next seven days you can make a single, one-time payment and spend your time leisurely adding items as you think of them during the run up to your wedding.
Or, you can allow your trial to expire, and then at a later date closer to your wedding, log back in and make payment. Your honeymoon gift list will be restored exactly as you left it. All of the work you've done will still be there; nothing will be lost.
Can you help us put together our list?
Yes! We offer two different levels of research service. We'll ask you a few questions about your honeymoon itinerary and personal tastes. Using this information, we'll then research items for your list, write appropriate descriptions for those items that will engage your guests, and include a fantastic image for each picture. You can, of course, add any further items of your own and make changes to any of our suggestions as you see fit.
We'll also provide a handful of ideas to get you started when you sign up for your free trial.
What happens to our pages after our wedding?
We won't ever delete them. You'll always be able to access your pages, although no further gift reservations can be made from one month after your wedding, and you'll no longer be able to make changes to your list. If you'd like this to be extended, we'll be happy set that up for you for free.
Your Gift History will be available to you forever.
*: Of course, we do recommend you get engaged first.
We just wanted to drop you a quick line to say that we were delighted to have chosen your site for our wedding list. We found the site very easy to set up and use, and it has also been invaluable as a reminder when sending thank you letters to guests. The feedback we have had from our guests has also been 100% positive.
— Edward Bacon and Maddie Baxter, Essex
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